My longest relantionship hasn’t been with partner or person. My longest relationship has been with an institution, in fact its been with the GUM Clinic. For last 5 years, despite who I have been with or how much sex I have been having, the GUM Clinic has been my only constant.
For those of you who don’t know a GUM clinic, which stands for genitourinary medicine, is a sexual health clinic which can provide tests for STD’s, they can provide free contraceptives and talk to you about family planning. These are provided by the free healthcare service that we have in the UK, the NHS.
My relantionship with the GUM clinic started 5 years ago when I was 15. I wasn’t yet sexually active but I thought the time was coming up when I might be, so I wanted to be prepared. Coming from a conserative christain family there wasnt really anyone that I could talk to, I couldn’t go to my parents for advice and none of my friends had taken the sex plunge yet so again, no one who I could go to. So I googled the closest GUM Clinic and went there after school. When I walked in, it was clear that I was definitley the youngest, but there actually weren’t there many people there, so I wasnt to intimidated. Luckily a really nice receptionist came over to me and gave me somewhere to sit and the correct forms to fill out. I went in a went my checks, in all honesty my memory is really shit so I can’t remember exactly what happened, but I answered a bunch of questions from this nice nurse and I left with more knowledge than I had before and a box of microgynon 30. The nurse even gave me the “sex talk” which I am still waiting to recieve from my parents!
When I was 16 after an incident with precum and a split condom, I was left in tears for 2 weeks. I was pretty sure the God’s were against me and I was definitley going to be pregnant. I wasn’t sure who to turn to, even if I could have talked to one of my friends, no one had any experience of this sort of thing. So I went back to the GUM Clinic less than a year later. I saw a different nurse, who did similar checks to the first time I was there and she gave me a pregnancy test. I was so nervous that it felt like it took me 9 years to pee on that bloody stick. The nurse sat with me for the longest three minutes of my life and when finally the negative result came and she held me as I sobbed sighs of relief.
When I was 18 I was sexually assaulted by my then boyfriend, I wasn’t ready to admit what had happened. I didn’t want to get him in trouble and I wasn’t sure what to do, however the amount of pain I was in was unbearable. I headed to a different GUM Clinic more local to my college. I had been left with vaginal tearing and bruising, the nurse cleaned and bandaged me up and helped to work out how I felt about what happened.
and when I has just turned 20, I went back for the final time. This time because I was experiencing more vaginal pain then I ever thought possible. I headed back and after a 3 hour wait, I finally went in and saw the nicest nurse I had ever met. We chatted for ages about my sex life, had a giggle here and there and she aapologised for bruising me when she took my bloods. My examination wasn’t to painful either, except she was wearing glasses, so I could see my entire vagina in the reflection of her glasses – it was pleasent. However when I got the dreaded news that I had a STD – herpes UGH! She looked after me as I cried, kept me calm and gave me as much information as I could stand at that point.
sorry – getting a bit heavy there lol
anyway, I never thought that this would be my longest relantionship, or that I wouold go through any of this. Throughout my blog I will probs touch on a few of the above topics, if theres anything you would like to know more about, just give me a shout.
What experiences have you guys had? lettme know.
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