5 Things I have learnt about Sex from being a Ginger

What I have learnt about sex as a ginger

So I’m ginger, it’s natural, I’ve been blessed by genetics. And it’s great, I LOVE being ginger, but as I’ve gotten older and past the bullying stage, I’ve realised what a massive part it plays in the dating game. So here are some things I have learnt!

1.People think Gingers are whores

Whenever I meet someone, in a bar, on tinder, on the dance floor, they tend to make the assumption that we are kinky as fuck and are up for anything. I guess I don’t really help the stereotype but it’s so annoying. I can’t tell you how many times I have had the “oh your ginger, bet you’re up for anything” line (or something to that affect). It literally means that when I’m out, I know guys only wanna get with me, not actually to talk or flirt. They just wanna know what I’m up for. Pleasant right?

2. It’s the only compliment you’ll ever get

It doesn’t matter where I am, who I’m with or how bomb I look. It’s always about the hair. Some girls get the tits or ass compliment, I only ever get the hair. “It’s so different” “it’s so magical” “wow is it real” “it’s so unique” you know what isn’t unique? THAT COMPLIMENT! I KNOW HOW MAGICAL MY GODDAMN HAIR IS OK?! But hey I’m still gunna take the compliment cause I love compliments.

3. The fetish is real

If you had told me 8 years ago when I was bitterly bullied about the colour of my hair, that gingers were actually a fetish. There’s no way in hell I would have believed you! But it’s so true “I’ve never been with a ginger” is something I hear every time I get chatted up. Only 2% of the world population is ginger, so I can imagine that you probably never have been with a ginger, but you won’t be getting with me sunshine #standards.

4.Be careful in the bedroom

Now this sounds like such sound advice for anyone who likes to get kinky in the bedroom. But hey be careful. We bruise so easily, I can’t get a little neck action without my body thinking I have had a blood sucking hickey. Those bruises last for days I swear. Also we tend to experience pain a lot easier than others, so hard core spanking is out of the question (well sometimes I just suck it up but, ya know). I have had Guys play it way to safe though as they know gingers are “delicate” and I can tell you that, that is a right old mood killer my right. It takes a balance and being really honest with partner about how much pain your ok with before you literally can’t take it anymore. Again another example of why code words are such a blessing in disguise!

5.You’ll actually meet a ginger fan-boy/girl

So this has happened to me twice, and I can you that I have run a mile each time. One day you’ll meet someone who knows that scientifically gingers have sex more regularly than people with any other hair colour AND that gingers have 41% chance of reaching orgasm. When you find this person who knows this, and you will, they may automatically assume that therefore, you MUST have sex with them. Because that makes logically sense right?! NO IT DOESNT. If/when you meet this person, run a mile and kick him in the balls! Unless your attracted to their amount of knowledge on your hair, then crack on my friend, crack on.

So there you go, the top things I have learnt about sex from a gingers point of view, Or maybe you’re not ginger yourself but you’re guilty of doing these things 😉 gingers notice. If there’s anything you wanna add comment below so I can see what you’ve learnt?


My Longest Relantionship

My longest relantionship hasn’t been with partner or person. My longest relationship has been with an institution, in fact its been with the GUM Clinic. For last 5 years, despite who I have been with or how much sex I have been having, the GUM Clinic has been my only constant.

For those of you who don’t know a GUM clinic, which stands for genitourinary medicine, is a sexual health clinic which can provide tests for STD’s, they can provide free contraceptives and talk to you about family planning. These are provided by the free healthcare service that we have in the UK, the NHS.

My relantionship with the GUM clinic started 5 years ago when I was 15. I wasn’t yet sexually active but I thought the time was coming up when I might be, so I wanted to be prepared. Coming from a conserative christain family there wasnt really anyone that I could talk to, I couldn’t go to my parents for advice and none of my friends had taken the sex plunge yet so again, no one who I could go to. So I googled the closest GUM Clinic and went there after school. When I walked in, it was clear that I was definitley the youngest, but there actually weren’t there many people there, so I wasnt to intimidated. Luckily a really nice receptionist came over to me and gave me somewhere to sit and the correct forms to fill out.  I went in a went my checks, in all honesty my memory is really shit so I can’t remember exactly what happened, but I answered a bunch of questions from this nice nurse and I left with more knowledge than I had before and a box of microgynon 30. The nurse even gave me the “sex talk” which I am still waiting to recieve from my parents!

When I was 16 after an incident with precum and a split condom, I was left in tears for 2 weeks. I was pretty sure the God’s were against me and I was definitley going to be pregnant. I wasn’t sure who to turn to, even if I could have talked to one of my friends, no one had any experience of this sort of thing. So I went back to the GUM Clinic less than a year later. I saw a different nurse, who did similar checks to the first time I was there and she gave me a pregnancy test. I was so nervous that it felt like it took me 9 years to pee on that bloody stick. The nurse sat with me for the longest three minutes of my life and when finally the negative result came and she held me as I sobbed sighs of relief.

When I was 18 I was sexually assaulted by my then boyfriend, I wasn’t ready to admit what had happened. I didn’t want to get him in trouble and I wasn’t sure what to do, however the amount of pain I was in was unbearable. I headed to a different GUM Clinic more local to my college. I had been left with vaginal tearing and bruising, the nurse cleaned and bandaged me up and helped to work out how I felt about what happened.

and when I has just turned 20, I went back for the final time. This time because I was experiencing more vaginal pain then I ever thought possible. I headed back and after a 3 hour wait, I finally went in and saw the nicest nurse I had ever met. We chatted for ages about my sex life, had a giggle here and there and she aapologised for bruising me when she took my bloods. My examination wasn’t to painful either, except she was wearing glasses, so I could see my entire vagina in the reflection of her glasses – it was pleasent. However when I got the dreaded news that I had a STD – herpes UGH! She looked after me as I cried, kept me calm and gave me as much information as I could stand at that point.

sorry – getting a bit heavy there lol

anyway, I never thought that this would be my longest relantionship, or that I wouold go through any of this. Throughout my blog I will probs touch on a few of the above topics, if theres anything you would like to know more about, just give me a shout.

What experiences have you guys had? lettme know.

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My names Katy, welcome to my blog. It took me literally 6 months to write this first post because I didn’t know what I wanted to write about. Or what I actually could write about without getting fucking bored.

I thought about; beauty and fashion, maybe some lifestyle but nothing seemed to fit. Instead I thought I would blog about something that I know a little something about. Sex.

You heard it here ladies and gentlemen, this is a sex blog.

Don’t get me wrong. This isn’t a porn site or somewhere where you finally learn how to locate a clit, instead this will focus on the in’s and out’s of sex in your life.

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We are going to be looking at protection, stds, turn ons, dating, boys, girls and all that lovely stuff.

So settle up lads this is gunna be a bumpy ride 😉